Procreating in this chaotic world is a crime. Generally, people in India do not appreciate the idea."Exit the closetIt’s the stigma that results in several voluntarily child-free couples staying hidden in the closet. As soon as humans are gone, all these will start reversing and the planet will start recovering. We live in an overpopulated country where there are many orphan kids. Many might think that we are supportive of wiping out mankind from the face of Earth. "Parenthood is an irreversible process; there’s a dire need of awareness on jumping the gun."Minal opines, "Bringing a child into this chaotic and collapsing planet is the biggest child abuse. Our family has more or less accepted our thoughts, but they hope we would change our minds. One species alone cannot be entrusted with the safety and continuity of the planet. Human race will become extinct due to global warming, climate change and ecological destruction if we keep breeding like mushrooms.
We are waiting it out till we know the right time," says Rheea, who refuses to see the world in binary ways being ‘for’ or ‘against’ something. Child-free existence can be attributed to concerns over financial constraints, environment, population explosion, poor life-work balance, genetic illness, etc.Non-parenthood was a decision she made during her teens. In fact, we are very pro-adoption, but it’s a huge commitment. "Married for over seven years now, we are open about our decision to not have kids."Not to have a baby was always in my subconscious mind long before my parents started looking for an alliance. But you do things from your own understanding of the world and what it teaches you. With our unsustainable lifestyle for ages, we have almost destroyed the planet. Over the years, they have been pushed towards the thoughts about the joys of motherhood and family," observes Raeesa, a social media consultant and animal welfare volunteer in Chennai. "When the world is populated enough and we struggle with basic sustenance, there’s no need to add more people to it."ANTI-NATALISM IS PRO-LIFELike Minal, several couples would explain that their non-parenthood choice is a benignant act of altruism. "We believe that parenthood is full of frustrations and expectations, along with the obvious joys. I have seen many regretting having kids.Harshvardhan and RaeesaIt was her auto-immune disorder vitiligo that first prompted Raeesa and her husband Harshvardhan Jodha, a racing official at the Madras Race Club, to decide not to try to have kids. Why should we create more lives when we cannot look after our current state of affairs," she asks. People tend to become more selfish when they have children, and in many cases unintentionally hurt others."Kedar and SnehaKedar and his wife Sneha, a software engineer and Kathak dancer, had reached a consensus on non-parenthood before getting hitched.
"Convincing the family was difficult for seven to eight years, but sooner or later, they had to understand that China caster wheels Factory we have no interest in breeding. But it isn’t!"Now that their immediate family has accepted their choice, the couple doesn’t bother about the rest."The former is a choice and the latter, a philosophy. For me, no human is fit to become a parent when we don’t know how to live in harmony with nature. "We are not anti-anything. In fact, it’s the other way round. But only years later, after going vegan did I realise how destructive the homosapien is! However, I was lucky to have found an ambitious, career-oriented man who wanted to marry me only if I agreed to go child-free. Coming out requires a great deal of courage and conviction."Having kids can be a wonderful thing for many. As the duo travelled more and worked with abandoned or injured animals, the idea that humanity was becoming a burden to the rest of the species, reaffirmed. Many confess to have secretly wished to be as courageous as us to reject the pressure to procreate mindlessly," says Minal.Responsible non-parenting‘Happily ever after’ is perfectly possible without procreating. Living child-free for over two decades now, Chennai-based senior consultant interventional cardiologist Dr Sanjiv Agrawal and Minal, a vegan activist who runs a private cat shelter, vouches for it. Bashing the misconceptions that movements like anti-natalism and Voluntary Human Extinction Force support murder, Kedar Mohan Tembe, a sports professional based in Singapore, clarifies, "In fact, it is supportive of life – not just human life.Flawed ‘Isms’Among all these child-free couples are the ones who do not want to make ‘anti’ as their identity. If children make life complete, it should have been a loving society, a perfect world. The sixth mass extinction is because of human activity., whereas anti-natalism inculcates in one a moral duty to end suffering," he clarifies. Bengaluru-based writer Rheea Rodrigues Mukherjee and her partner Indrayudh Ghoshal, a music-theatre artiste, who parent two adopted dogs, are one such couple. Kedar adds, "Societal dogmas have no place in intellectual decisions. People find it difficult to accept, but that is more because of societal conditioning and not because they understand that they have a choice."The duo had kept the decision to themselves for long, but they had to finally blurt it out.